Families and Prayerful Simple Discussions

Yesterday, one of my sons mentioned that last week he had sat with his wife and five children so they all could discuss an important decision that the parents would make, but that would greatly affect all of them. They prayed together concerning the issue, and shortly thereafter a decision was made.

This part of the discussion I had with Andrew yesterday was a short one and we didn’t spend much time on it at all. I’ve thought extensively about it since then, however. Such spans are incredibly important, and even though the children may not consider it so, and may be bored, or perhaps even unable to comprehend what’s going on, the image of a father and a mother discussing and praying about things with their children implants itself into the minds of those children (and the adults, for that matter.) These are powerful life moments.

A designated time for studied family devotions is desirable. I suspect there may be many families, though, who have not established such a time, and who may even feel a little guilty that they have not, and because they have not set up the “big program,” fail to take the occasional moment to involve their families in this unique and blessed interlude. Today, I want to encourage you fathers and you mothers to not walk about in condemnation because of the big and heady things you don’t do, but to take advantage of the small opportunities that come your way. These are invaluable times and will be forever etched in the minds of your children.

No more effective college exists than two lying together on a summer hillside, arms beneath their heads as they gaze into the splendid sky, a blade of grass wriggling around in his mouth as Dad casually tells Son of the splendor and greatness of God. No greater Bible class than that of a mother sitting on the bed with her daughter, opening up a single scripture and tenderly guiding this  fledgling woman into its pertinent truths. No more effective seminary, no more star-studded university than that of a dad casually saying to his brood, “Got a couple of things to discuss this evening, a few things to pray about.”


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About Shirley Buxton

Still full of life and ready to be on the move, Shirley at 80 years old feels blessed to have lots of energy and to be full of optimism. She has been married to Jerry for 62 years. They have 4 children, 12 grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren...all beautiful and highly intelligent--of course. :)
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8 Responses to Families and Prayerful Simple Discussions

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  2. Shirley says:

    Paula Luke That was awesome and I believe this with all my heart!!! I feel very strong that we as parents have such a great responsibility to train up our children!!!! In this day and time it is getting harder and harder to find the time to teach them…we have to Make the time and do it!! Oh the joy they can bring us if we do invest our time and wisdom aout God and His ways to our children!! Good for Andrew!!!!!

    (This comment by Paula was posted first on FaceBook)

    Thank you Paula for your timely and sincere response.

  3. Wow…Thank you! The thought that my husband and I have not had our desired program down has kept us from starting family devotions, just as you said…We have out times alone with our children but family time is what we have desired…We have felt guilty for not getting it together…Thank you for the encouragement to not live in condemnation but to pick up and just begin…We have two little ones that we are striving to raise in the fear of God..Nothing else matters to us more than this…
    Thank you for the beautiful image that came to mind when you wrote of a family coming together to talk and pray…
    Lord Bless, Diana

  4. Jana McVay says:

    Thank you for this beautiful heart-felt commentary on family and how important it is to spend time with our children, even when it “hinders” the “dreams and desires” of the parent(s). I gladly surrender my dreams to the cause of raising three Godly young people. Have I always made this choice? Unfortunately, no. However, they have always been a priority (even when not my first) and we have ALWAYS had a close relationship. As time passes and my children are maturing, I find that our times together are growing deeper in conversation and discussion of choices in life and about God’s will. It is a wonderful place to be; in the will of God as I guide my children through their teen years!!!! And oh, what a blessing to see them making good, Godly choices!!!

    Thank you for your kind words regarding my recent blog post. I was encouraged by your passionate reinforcement of how to prioritize our lives. I completely agree!!!!

    Love you Sis. Buxton!!!!

  5. Shirley says:

    Berni Tilghman Cupoli Paula I can tell you have a Christian school. DAILY training in the Temple!

    (This comment by Berni was originally posted on FaceBook.)

    Berni, I admire you for many things; one is your passion for Christian schools. Love you so much.

  6. Shirley says:

    Diana, thank you so much for visiting my site and for your openness concerning your own family and their needs. What great insight there is in your words, “Thank you for the encouragement to not live in condemnation but to pick up and just begin…”

    The Bible addresses this very subject in Deut. 6:7–a beautiful portion of scripture.

    “You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.”

    Isn’t that the neatest thing…when we’re out for a walk, when we’re in a rocking chair, at night when we’re tucking them in, or early in the morning when we wake them for school…we teach. In those regular, ordinary times, we teach our children about God.

    Hope you visit here often, and I wish every blessing on your family.

  7. Shirley says:

    Jana, my dear. You are an inspiration; so full of talent, so spiritually minded, and with such a tremendous attitude. Thank you for being here and for your kind words. Stay in there. You’re doing a great job with your children. No greater or more important work in the world. None. Nada. Zilch.

    I do love you back.

  8. Thank you! I will be visiting often..In just these few posts from women who have walked this path before me, I have gleaned some great information…Thank you for your timely message…:)

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